hello beautiful,
i’m here to help, the best way i can.
i’ve been getting advice questions lately so if you write in my ask wanting/needing advice i’ll post my reply here & write in your ask that i posted it when i do.
if you want it to be anonymous feel free to hit the anonymous button or tell me you want it kept a secret.
i’ll be posting your question & also my reply together to help you know which is yours :)
http://www.youdontevenknow-xo.tumblr.com/ask
- love ashley <3
ANONYMOUS: oh, my god! i just randomly read that post you sent to just-the-way-you-arent and i never thought that anyone else would be going through the same thing as me! wow, your story is just almost spot on the same thing as what happened to me.
hehe, you propably don’t care about this at all, i just felt the need to write it.. :p but one question; how did you get over him ?
ps. could you just answer me in my ask box ? <3
ANSWER/REPLY: i have replied in your inbox alrady, i just posted it so i have a post on here; hehehe <3
ANONYMOUS: I’m never good enough. I ALWAYS come in as second best ):
ANSWER/REPLY: you are good enough, you’re perfect the way you are. life is not a competition on who’s “best”, life is a gift to YOU, so YOU live it the way YOU want. you’re amazing, in every way, and you’re YOU, which is perfect in my eyes, God’s eyes, and millions of others. :) xx
ANONYMOUS: im in love with this guy i’ve known forever, and we’ve been through alot of shit. hes asked me out a bunch of times, but i didn’t realize how much i cared about him before. hes dating this girl now, and i have a boyfriend. i love my boyfriend so much but it seems like me and this guy just cant get over each other. what should i do ?
ANSWER/REPLY: i’ve been in the exact same situation. if you love the boy you’ve got right now, stick with him; you don’t want to leave him for the other, because he may not leave his girl. wait until you’re both single, because if you still have feelings you could give it a try. but if you’re still fighting or arguing a bit, make sure he is also fighting for you and it’s not just you trying to fix it everytime; you need to be equal in your relationship.
for now, stick with your boy. just don’t cheat on him with the other. xx
ANONYMOUS: opposite to me
when will i ever trust a girl who wont break my heart in the end
when i date a girl i maintaine the realtionship and give her all the warmth and comfort but in the end i always get hurt (:
ANSWER/REPLY: it sucks.. doesn’t itt? i get where you’re coming from though some chicks are bitches to guys who don’t deserve it.
i hate being upset all the time because guys lie to me for shit.
if you ever need to talk i’m here :D
littlemariex3: (Sorry if it’s long) There’s this guy & we used to have a thing. But he fucked me over. I’ve always had feelings for him. & we are friends. We talk frequently, but it’s hard forgetting everything he put me through. He recently broke up with his girlfriend and now we talk even more. But it’s hard cause he flirts with me, I’m just not sure what’s up with that. & next year I’m going to transfer to his school cause I’m moving & I think I’m going to die. :|
ANSWER/REPLY: you won’t die; and you need to talk to him about your feelings, who knows maybe he’s never gotten over you! guys tend to hurt girls because they’re afraid of being committed, or they do it by accident because they were trying too hard not to hurt you. guys also can be players, but you have to hope for the best, maybe moving to his school will be a good thing. you never know, so give it a try. just try not to flirt with him too much, you may re-fall for him. & you don’t want to get screwed over again, because it hurts just as much. <3
Myliann: My love life has been complicated, and complicated doesn’t begin to touch on it. But I’m sure for all girls going through high school and college the same is true. However, right now I’m trying to make one of the biggest decisions of my life. I know i’ve never met you, but I’d like some input from an outside perspective. My boyfriend S and I have been together for almost 2 years, but best friends for almost 8. they way we got together was adorable, something you would see in the movies. He’s great, its just that he’s clingy and the jealous type and after 2 years of dealing with that stuff I’m fed up. However, there is this guy B who is my best friend now who i just met this year at school. Him and I do just about everything together and are almost the same person, just different sexes. My problem is that I think I’m falling for B, but I still love S and him and I are supposed to move in together in August. I can’t decide what to do :/
ANSWER/REPLY: talk to S about the clingyness, it’s better then just ignoring it or breaking up with him. see his reaction; see where this takes you, but the thing is, if you love someone, but you start to fall for someone else, maybe theres a reason for it. i hope that helps! :)
ANONYMOUS: dont know if im doing this advice thing write so il put it here if its ok?
i think about self harm, i made my girlfriend angy two nights ago and i felt so bad a stabbed my self 15 times with a fountain pen really hard, and when im angry now i think of doing it again, what do i do? please help, am i a freak
ANSWER/REPLY: first of all, you are not a freak. self-harm does not label you as anything like that.
secondly, i self harm. i have for a while, not so much lately though. i have realized its not worth it, i don’t want scars from bad memories, talk to her and let her know you are sorry. you shouldn’t self harm from being upset, no matter how hard it is not to do it. people care about you and people are there for you to help you get through it.
when ever you’re thinking about it, do something that makes you happy, like for example, i draw. it puts your emotions into something you love to do and helps you forget about wanting to self harm.
ANONYMOUS: how do i stop being so damn awkward?! haha
ANSWER/REPLY: awe, hahah stop caring what others think and just be yourself, you only live once and if people don’t like you for you it’s their problem not yours :)
ANONYMOUS: hi i need some advice. so one of my best friends really likes this kid that ive liked since the begging of the year but he broke my hear already once and i still like him. but he likes her and they were flirting in the pool today and i was getting so jealous, i know i should be happy for her but its so hard.
ANSWER/REPLY: i’ve been through the same thing. the easiest thing to do would be to tell your best friend that you still have feelings for him. maybe she won’t flirt with him like that. other than that you could try your best to move on and let her be happy, even though that can be extremely hard, it’s sometimes the best thing you could do.
